Emotional abuse leaves few or no physical scars. The victims dont suffer any broken bones, or bruise or spilled blood. But those hurt describe it as the most painful and destructive form of domestic violence.
The common question the victim may ask is, Am I being emotionally abused??? Take a moment to consider these questions. Did you think all this was okay????
- Does your spouse enjoy degrading you, shaming you,criticize you, humiliate you, or undermine your self-esteem??
- Do you feel that you can't discuss with your partner what is bothering you? Does it always lead to an argument??
- Does your spouse try to keep you away from family and friends?Does your partner demean you for expressing yourself?
- Do you find yourself walking on eggshells around your spouse, afraid of upsetting him?
- Does your spouse ignore you, never listens to you, talks over you or always places his own needs above your needs?
- Does your relationship swing back and forth between a lot of emotional distance and being very close?
- Have you ever felt obligated to have sex, just to avoid an argument about it?
- Do you sometimes feel trapped in the relationship?
- Are you afraid of your partner?
Emotional abuse affects a person’s self esteem. Emotional abuse may be accompanied by physical abuse, but does not have to be or it may be very subtle.Many women do not see it as abuse. It sometimes may be brushed off as the spouse being short tempered or that some people have a different personality.Many women suffer in silence thinking that it is her duty to save the abuser or to help him change. Many times, as helpless as she feels in the relationship, she also believes that she cannot live without him. This is because of the way he has manipulated her into a feeling of dependence on him.
It is very important to remember that just because there are no physical marks does not mean that abuse has not occurred. The effects of emotional abuse are just as devastating and can be even more long lasting than the effects of physical abuse. There are hotlines you can call for advice, and local counselors who can help with both individual and marital counseling. Never be afraid to reach out for help. You are not alone.